Since he's just recently come out, he's probably gone through a lot of emotional turmoil the last few months. Trying to decide how and when and if to tell who he was going to tell. Now that it's out in the open, that stress and anxiety and tension that was built up inside of him for so long is being let out and it has nowhere to go. It would be not unlike a flood gate. The whole thing is very overwhelming. Also, once you come out, you can finally let the (for lack of a better term "gay personality" if you know what I mean) out, and stop putting up this fake front. Unfortunately, you haven't really had a chance to let that personality develop and so even though you've come out you're still trying to find yourself.
I had a similar problem when I came out to my friends and family. If I wasn't all laid back, I was pissed off; there was no middle ground. It also happened to my brother when he came out. He had the most spastic mood swings EVER. Fear not though; it lessens eventually and everybody goes back to being normal... Er, relatively normal anyway. XD
I hoped that helped a little bit. I know I rambled slightly, but I had to try.
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Date: 2007-11-17 09:22 am (UTC)Since he's just recently come out, he's probably gone through a lot of emotional turmoil the last few months. Trying to decide how and when and if to tell who he was going to tell. Now that it's out in the open, that stress and anxiety and tension that was built up inside of him for so long is being let out and it has nowhere to go. It would be not unlike a flood gate. The whole thing is very overwhelming. Also, once you come out, you can finally let the (for lack of a better term "gay personality" if you know what I mean) out, and stop putting up this fake front. Unfortunately, you haven't really had a chance to let that personality develop and so even though you've come out you're still trying to find yourself.
I had a similar problem when I came out to my friends and family. If I wasn't all laid back, I was pissed off; there was no middle ground. It also happened to my brother when he came out. He had the most spastic mood swings EVER. Fear not though; it lessens eventually and everybody goes back to being normal... Er, relatively normal anyway. XD
I hoped that helped a little bit. I know I rambled slightly, but I had to try.